Hey Dubai… BRB. K?

 

What an amazing week-long adventure in Dubai for the grand opening of the world’s first #coworking space (not business center) in a hotel – NestDubai at Tryp by Wyndham Dubai.

Special thanks to Tryp by Wyndham Dubai, Mike LaRosa of Coworkaholic & Jessica Edwards Curator of  NEST Dubai for being amazing hosts.

Full write-up, review of the hotel, coworking space, Dubai and more pics coming soon.

5 Debt and Equity Free Ways to Raise Funds To Start or Grow Your Business Today.

Don't let money be the reason you don't start or build your business...secure the bag.

You are BRILLIANT.

Your business idea just might be the one that changes the world as we know it and becomes a multi-million dollar brand. But the reality is you don’t have thousands of dollars – yet alone millions saved up to get your biz off the ground and present it to the world. You’re willing to bootstrap it but even bootstrapping takes some cash.

or…

YOU’VE STARTED FROM THE BOTTOM NOW YOU’RE HERE. 

But you need to get to —-> THERE.

You’ve built your business from the ground up by your bootstraps but now you’ve hit a ceiling. You’ve proved the concept, built the product, got the customers and made some money but in order to grow your business to its potential you need to expand your team, up your marketing budget and invest in new systems and technology to handle business operations at scale. That means you need an infusion of cash that your current cash flow can’t handle at the moment.

 

DON’T BELIEVE THE HYPE.

THERE IS NO SHORTAGE OF CASH.

 

First, you have to tap into the appropriate vehicle and resources for your business and its goals.

‘Cause errthang ain’t for errbody.

Here are 5 debt and equity free vehicles to tap in to:

Crowdfunding 

Posting your project on people – driven platforms like Kickstarter, IndieGoGo and iFundWomen can be the sole way to raise money for your business or it can be a supplement for debt and equity investments such as loans and angel investors.

Pitch Competitions & Challenges

Corporate companies and a host of organizations are holding pitch competitions and challenges where you can win $5k to $1 million cash for presenting your business idea.

Accelerators & Incubators

Obtain debt – free cash investments, equity-free grants, free and discounted resources for your business and access to mentors, education and more through these programs. Think programs like these are only for people who code or super techy companies? Nope. There are accelerator or incubator programs available in most industries.

Sponsorship & Corporate Partnerships

Attract and develop partnerships with corporate brands and that can equate to millions of cash and revenue for your business.

Digital Currency Token Sales

A token sale, also known as an ICO (Initial Coin Offering) is one of the latest way startups are raising millions of cash. According to Smith + Crown, a leading blockchain research, data and consulting group an …ICO is an event in which a new cryptocurrency project sells part of its cryptocurrency tokens to early adopters and enthusiasts in exchange for money today. ICOs provide a way for cryptocurrency project creators to raise money for their operations. Most ICOs raise money in Bitcoin or other cryptocurrencies.

 

You see?

There are a lot of ways to run a successful fundraising campaign. There’s also plenty of ways to jack it up… and you may have first-hand knowledge of this. You may be familiar with the ways I mentioned above and even tried one or two or all of these vehicles to no success.

 

This is why I created the  SECURE THE BAG UNCONFERENCE.

 

SECURE THE BAG is an unconference event for entrepreneurs in the concept to the scale stage seeking to capital to fund their businesses. The content shared is tested and proven, strategies and resources for leveraging traditional and non-traditional funding opportunities.

Whether you’re attempting to raise a small amount of startup cash or millions of dollars, this event promises to provide loads of value by providing you with not only the WHAT to do to solve your fundraising challenges but the HOW to get it done.

 

Join me at the SECURE THE  BAG UNConference taking place on September 22nd, 2017 in NYC.

Tickets go on sale Tuesday, August 17th. Get them —> here.

 

That’s all for now.

xoxo,

Tani Chambers



Accountability Is Key To A Woman’s Success In Business

I posted the following note in the private Build Brand Profit Mastermind Facebook group a few weeks ago. I hope its offers you some inspiration and motivation to seek out a like minded person or group to commit for an accountability partnership to reach you’re goals.
Listen, I’m rooting for you!

Most of all I hope it offers some encouragement and reiterates that I’m here for you and YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

WHY BBPM & YOUR ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER IS KEY TO YOUR SUCCESS.

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“A crowd can’t support you, but a small group can. They know when you’re sick, when you’re having a tough time, when you need a break. You can share your goals and your successes and failures, and they will rejoice with you and encourage you to keep going. You’re going to need that when you make the right kind of goals and pursue them wholeheartedly.” – Pastor Rick Warren

 

Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, By yourself you’re unprotected. With a friend you can face the worst. Can you round up a third? A three-stranded rope isn’t easily snapped.” (MSG)

 

Lack of support is a major hindrance to women entrepreneurs. Aren’t you blessed to have a group who will protect, encourage, rejoice, share with/for YOU and vice versa while pursuing your goals?

So many women are in this thing by themselves and YOU ARE NOT. So keep in mind just how blessed you are and use that to KEEP GOING and SHOW UP!

You’re not in this thing alone…but YOU gotta be IN IT to reap the benefits.

This is also was a confirmation for me as I had been seeking a mastermind program for myself. It also was a gut check for me because I hadn’t been ACTIVELY pursuing this or the additional coaching for some areas I need to work on. So I AM so ON IT now.

However,  I can SHOW you better than I can tell you…..so #‎WatchMeWerk‬

And again….YOU’RE NOT IN THIS ALONE.

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No He Didn’t When God Comes for you

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So for Lent I started an new daily bible devotional by Rick Warren – “Transformed.”

I went through it and then got to the last Bible verse of the day’s topic:
“So I run with purpose in every step. I am not just shadowboxing.” – 1 Corinthians 9:26 NLT
I read it and said “WOAH!” Although I know I have, I felt like I’ve NEVER read this scripture before! So I knew God wanted my attention.

Here’s what is interesting about this particular scripture….
Most of us talk about “walking in purpose.” Its very common. As a matter of fact I’ve probably said that phrase 20 times since Saturday alone.
But the Apostle Paul says he’s “running with purpose.” Not walking but RUNNING!
Then I heard:

“Are You walking or running with your purpose?”

Next came a gulp and momentary sinking feeling in my chest. I had just been checked.
Oh yes He did! God came for me….and no I didn’t send for Him. But He got it like that.
Paul was serious about the “‪#‎BossMoves‬” he was making. EVERY SINGLE STEP. He wasn’t walking, seeking, procrastinating, delaying, questioning….he was running. That says to me: He was serious and devoted to his calling and moving about FEARLESSLY. Plus he was very intentional about each move he made – making only those that moved him closer to his goal.

Paul goes on to say he’s

“not just shadowboxing.”

In 2015 speak….I’m not just exercising, I’m in training. Big difference right? We can take a boxing class at the gym but never get in the ring at a Golden Gloves tournament.
In other words, we can get caught up in the motivation/inspirational speeches, take all the trainings, webinars, read all the books, attend the conferences BUT NEVER APPLY IT – shadowboxing. Paul was saying I’m in this thing to win it – so I’m in training for the title.
So I understood why God came for me this morning. If I was truly accepting my purpose and calling I need to start running with this thing. No more delays. No more excuses. No more setbacks. No more procrastination.
Start running…. today.

So ask yourself:
Am I running with my purpose with every step?
Am I training for my purpose or just shadowboxing?

What’s My Motivation

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It takes significant, progressive, high goals to make this your best year yet.

And….

If you are working toward significant, progressive, high goals, you will face significant resistance.

High goals won’t allow you to be comfortable. You’ve got to be bold, courageous, get uncomfortable and Get It Done. You’ve got to fight the resistance. The only way you can keep up the effort against the resistance is if the goal matters enough. It must MOTIVATE you.

It is just not enough just to have clearly defined, S.M.A.R.T. goals.

Yes, that’s what I said. Its not enough.The goals are merely apart of the process.

You will fail to reach your goals if you don’t have clarity about WHY the goal matters. To get it done and win over resistance you need to know why each one of your goals are important to you.

What’s at stake if you don’t accomplish them?

What’s possible if you do accomplish them?

What’s your motivation to get to the other side of the road?

These answers – your motivating factors – are going to be what drives you to the finish line.

Your Beliefs, Thoughts & Confessions are ruining your life

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Now that you have come face to face with the limiting behaviors keeping you from succeeding in your goals its time to examine WHY these behaviors exist.

It all surrounds your beliefs and thoughts.

Here’s what you have to do…..

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Life is a reflection of our thoughts and words. Our lives are consistent with what we say to ourselves and what we predict, likely by also speaking it consistently into the universe. Life is a self fulfilling prophecy!

Review what you listed in the BEHAVIORS action assignment.

To discover the beliefs you have about yourself that lead you away from reaching success ask your self the following question:

“What am I saying about myself to explain my limiting behaviors?”

This may be a difficult assignment because you will have to you to step outside your thoughts,observe them, and capture them for further consideration.

We are usually so caught up in all the “noise” going on in our heads that we don’t take time question what we are saying to ourselves and if it is true.

For each of the behaviors you listed, ask yourself “Why?” and write down the thoughts that occur to you in response. As much as possible, write down the exact words you say to yourself and out loud.

We will call these “confessions.” They reveal what you believe to be true about yourself.

Here are some examples…

I am just not good enough

I am not smart enough or educated enough to do better

I do not have enough time

I way out of my league – this is too big for me

My family and friends will not approve

No one is interested in hearing what I have to say

What do you stand for ?

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On a Personal Level…

The person you are is an expression of your core values. They determine how you think and what you do. They shape your purpose and determine your vision. They establish your character. In fact, they are extremely important to who you are.

Knowing what your core values are and managing them will provide a huge reward.

Values are those underlying assumptions and core convictions that shape our actions and decisions. They are your beliefs, your frame of reference, your grid, your perspective, and your mental wiring. They change rarely, even in adversity.

Your core values affect your life in both dramatic and subtle ways. When they are based on truth, they are your most important guiding tool. When they are not based on truth, then they disrupt your integrity. Many problems related to spiritual, emotional and physical issues have their root in a conflict between the values a person holds and what they want for their life. That conflict can manifest itself in many harmful ways.

When your goals are in line with your personal core values, you tend to have more success in achieving them.

On a Professional or Business Level

Many businesses focus on the technical side of things and neglect the underlying capacities that make their companies run better on a whole — Core Values. Your business’ core values are what support the vision, shape the culture and reflects your company’s principles, beliefs or philosophy of values.

Establishing core values provides both internal and external advantages for your business:

Core values help your business in the decision-making processes. For example, if one of your core values is to stand behind the quality of your products, any products not reaching the satisfactory standard are automatically eliminated.

Core values educates your current clients and prospective customers about the business and clarifies its identity.When it comes to competition, having a set of specific core values that speak to the public is definitely a competitive advantage for your brand.

Core values are primary tool for team building and HR recruiting. With the internet one has the ease of researching companies. Job seekers are savvy and doing their homework on the identities of the companies they are applying for and weighing whether or not your values are in line with theirs.

Core Values can help determine whether or not you should pursue a joint venture with another business person. Also, whether you should establish a strategic partnership with another company. For example, if your company’s #1 core value for your company is to serve entrepreneurs and your potential partner’s is to drive revenue by any means necessary – there may be a conflict at some point.

Tell me what you stand for or what are your core values in the comment section below.

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If a man thinks you’re too much – he’s not enough

**WARNING: Heiress, this is a pretty long post but likely worth it.**

Randomly, I was thinking back to a comment made by my ex-guy one evening. His actual words were…

“T, I love you. I really, really love you. I will do anything for you. But sometimes it’s hard being with you. It’s so hard to please you.”

It was in that moment that I knew that he was not enough – and he knew it, too.
Now, to be clear, I am not attacking his manhood. He IS a man in the very essence of the word. However, he is not the man for me.

The comment came about during a conversation we were having about plans he was making for us. He had been working long hours until late in the evening for weeks and wanted to make up for it by spending some uninterrupted time with me the next day.

He asked me if I wanted to do and of the usual “late night options” like food, the movies or a walk around Brooklyn Bridge Park or over Brooklyn Bridge. I was down and not as excited as he expected, I guess.

Could you blame me? We hadn’t spent time together for weeks and he was supposed to have been planning a special day out…and he comes up with this. Just the usual stuff.Really? **side eye**

BUT I WAS WILLING TO DO IT…just to be with him. It was Love…or so I thought.
Anyway, he says:

“I know. You’ll love this! There is a 24-hour spa in the city. We’ll go there. Get your nails done, massage and whatever else you want.”

I paused and cautiously responded… “Let’s just grab some sushi and go for that walk.”

He took a deep breath then let it out with a puff. His excited tone went from “AHA!” to “Damn it!” (or probably “Damn you!”).That’s when he said it…..

“T, I love you. I really, really love you. I will do anything for you. But sometimes it’s hard being with you. It’s so hard to please you.” And he shook his head

And that’s when I knew he was not enough. I came to the conclusion pretty simply. I didn’t react – at least not in a way he would notice. I just smiled and said…“It’s not like that. I’m just not prepared for it, that’s all. But if you want to we can go.”

Meanwhile, in my head…. my thoughts were exploding!I thought to myself…

“A man who I have been having a relationship with for 8 years, and who has known me for over 16years, knows ALL my secrets – and he knows I DON’T DO SPA?

All the hell I have given complaining about owning a spa? Really dude?

Then you tell me I’m difficult to be with and hard to please? You place the blame on me?

Nah bruh…I’m NOT difficult or hard to please. You just didn’t offer ANYTHING PLEASING to my desires, tastes or experiences and standards.

Frankly, you didn’t offer anything to ME.

This plan was not thought out. This was about what was easy and accessible right now… and IT IS NOT ENOUGH.

And since you think I’m hard to please because of this lazy, lacking, non-planned date – YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH. Not enough for me.”

You see, a man that was enough probably would have said something like:

“T – let’s grab something to eat, go and rest together (no sex involved for all you Christians lurking, nor a recommended action – but still) Netflix it or order a movie. Then we can go to Brooklyn Boulders in the morning and finally take that rock climbing class you’ve been wanting to do.”

See that there is no GUESSING involved. Just a man paying attention to the woman he loves and being PRESENT in a relationship. That’s all a man that IS enough does.

He didn’t have to do “anything” for me, as he claimed he would. All he had to do was what mattered to me and he chose not to.Instead he blamed me for…get this… BEING ME.BEing the woman he (claimed to have) fallen in love with. SMH.

He chose not to do the work. He chose not to take responsibility for it.And just WHY did he choose to take that road?Because he knew he was not enough.

However pride wouldn’t let him admit this or accept responsibility for it. In reality, the underlining issue was that he was not willing to do the work.So, all that talk about “I’ll do anything for you…” was nothing but lip service.

The “anything for you attitude backed up with action” IS certainly what I WANT and EXPECT in my man. Clearly he was not the man for me.

So#‎Heiress,‬‬ if a man considers you to be difficult to please or “too much” – he may be right. But do not compromise your standards. Accept that HE IS NOT ENOUGH.

“I have a boyfriend” and others statements of denial by a boss ( Chick )

Nostalgia is at it again. This time I’m thinking back to when men would approach me while I was still “with” the ex-guy. Of course, I didn’t oblige, nor was I remotely interested (at least, not then) so I was shutting them down left, right and center.

  • “I have a boyfriend.”
  • “I’m in a relationship.”
  • “I’m involved.”
  • “I’m with someone.”

But what dawned on me today was what exactly was behind the emotion, action and causes of my responses.

While most women are swooning over their beaux and are proud to express that they are “spoken for,” my feelings were quite different. I was apprehensive and sometimes even embarrassed to respond the way I did, but what else could I say?

I wasn’t married. I wasn’t engaged. Frankly, I didn’t have anything but a promise from the man who ruled my heart that my status would change…someday.

The worst part of the interaction came after I disclosed my “situation” to the gentleman at a soiree, the guy on the subway train or the “shawty on the corner” who would often go on to ask me, “Well, where’s the ring?”

Oh, the shame!

These men were doing way more than “running a game.” They were genuinely perplexed. Like children, men sometimes say the darndest things…or the truth slips out without a second thought.

All I could do to deflect each man’s attention wasbat my eyelashes,flash a pretty smile and high-tail it out of there as fast I could.I turned into the Roadrunner because what his question insinuated was true – I was being taken for a ride.

A man thinks: “Hot girl doing the damn thing and no one has scooped her up?” Then moments later, the thought:“There must be something wrong with her.”flashes across his mind.(Don’t get me started on men who have the nerve to think that if a beautiful, accomplished woman – when at a certain age – is single, she must have some type of flaw or that she’s some type of psycho chick. Yes. This is how men think. I won’t go into that here because that’s a whole other post.)

However I’ll give those guys some credit, they were partially correct because something was wrong. I was in denial.

I AM A BOSS (Chick)… I have no doubt about it. I knew it and so did the men who approached me. Yet I was in denial about the reality of my “situation.”

It comes down to the definition of a word. But what do these words mean? What is a boyfriend? A partner? A relationship? These vague titles are confusing and utterly meaningless.

Apparently, I’m not the only one who questions the validity of these titles.As I combed the internet researching the definitions and history of these words, I ran across the following question posed on the website English Exchange:

“I’ve been together with my boyfriend for around 9 years now. There are times when I want to communicate that I am referring to someone who plays a major role in my life, like that of a husband, and “boyfriend” does not seem adequate.”

Nine years? She’s right, “boyfriend” is NOT adequate at all, and there’s no way to spin it. What exactly is the right title for an uncommitted, stringing-you-along-for-years, giving-empty-promises man you’re allowing to claim ownership of you and your poonani (yeah, I said it) without making the actual “purchase” (commitment by vows)?

I’d be ashamed to call him my “boyfriend” too.As I said earlier, when I was in the same situation, I was ashamed, too.She went on to say…

“To me, ‘boyfriend’ seems to signify a newer relationship, one that is still in the experimental phase.”

Wait a minute! So you KNOW you’re past the “experimental” stage? That would lead one to believe that this relationship is a sure thing…right? So why aren’t you married?

CAVEAT

I am in no way referring to the exceptional circumstances where someone can’t get married legally for some reason. So please don’t go there in the comments. And if you don’t believe in marriage – this article is not for you,either. So carry on.

The situation I’m talking about is when there are no obstacles to marriage, when he’s the one and if he asked you tomorrow you would say YES without hesitation.

You see, this was the situation that I had been in. No wonder I was confused and ashamed about it. It had nothing to do with me and what I wanted but it had EVERYTHING to do with what I was allowing to keep happening to me.

I was allowing myself to be committed to something that was not real, like social media. My “relationship” was a series of facades, inspirational quotes and 15 sec “Boss Life” clips. I was just pretending.

Significant others and boyfriends are not real. They are just another form of denial of the truth. This “situation” was just something I was allowing because I was comfortable with it I was being given and lacked the confidence or boldness to demand more.

This experience simply confirmed my decision to revert back to – and to stand firm in – my NO DATING policy (more to come on my NO DATING philosophy soon in an upcoming post).

SIDEBAR: I believe there’s a simple process to marriage:
1.No Dating.
2.Friendship.
3.Courtship.
4.Marriage.

Everything else is NOT REAL it is just a set up for failure.

•Friendships – when discerned and vetted properly – are real.
•Courtship – when a man verbally states his intention and seals it with the materialsymbol, the ring – is real.
•Marriage – when two people genuinely commit to each other and make vows and a covenant before, and with God – is real.

Oh and if the end game is NOT marriage…then what are you in it for? Emotional distress? Heartache? Just for sex? Right…I believe you. :-/

But let’s get back to the matter at hand – everything else outside of these three areas is just not real. It is denial and your refusal to face the truth.

When a man is ready, it’s not a difficult decision. He simply commits. When he’s not sure, he delays. When you’re not the one, he delays until the right one comes along.

(You know who I mean, that dude you dated for 14years, the father of your three “out of wedlock” children – and I’m being nice. You know, the one that, after you broke up, got married a year later? Yeah, that one.)

Even women who are engaged allow this to happen. The ring is just one of the steps to solidifying a marriage. Engagements are (typically) ONE YEAR long, not 3, 5 or 10 years long. The longer the engagement, the more YOU depreciate in their eyes. Extended engagements are nothing but a man delaying making a decision.

And we, as women, instinctively know these things – it’s one of our super powers. Yet we choose to spend nine years (or even more)wallowing in denial because it’s comfortable or because we fear the unknown. Well, exploring the unknown is part of what makes you a BOSS…

We resort to flashing smiles that hideour shame and spending our time capital Googling ways to cleverly introduce our “non-husband” when all we have to do iseliminate our bad investment – the onethat gives us no ROI – by truly being the BOSSwe proclaimto be.

We have to pack it up and move onfrom this stage of denial. When it comes to our worth, it’s time we started making decisionsthat complement our BOSS CHICK status.We must make room for the men who see the value in us and will put the ring on our finger and the vows where their mouth is.

It’s time to tell that delaying, non-husband that his services are no longer needed. Or in BOSS CHICK words: “Honey, you’re fired!”